Do Not Be Too Comfortable In Your Comfort Zone!

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Everyone has a comfort zone, one which we very often prefer not to step outside of because it makes us feel… well uncomfortable (of course). But what if we stay there all the time? Do we develop? Do we grow as individuals?

How Comfort Zones Stifle Success

Have you ever entered a room full of people you didn’t know and your first thought was to turn around and leave?  At a meeting, have you been asked at the last minute to get up and thank the speaker?  These are examples of what many consider as being outside their comfort zone.So, what is a comfort zone & what’s wrong with living in one?

Roy T. Bennett put it like this,

The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

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It seems that psychologically, we’re programmed to seek comfort, but unfortunately comfort isn’t really the best thing for us if we want to have success.

Their comfort zone is the state which highly successful people try their best to avoid; they are constantly trying out new ideas to see what works out and what doesn’t. When their plans don’t work out as expected, they use these experiences as learning opportunities to progress closer to their goals.

So, when you find yourself feeling uncomfortable, take some deep breathes and calm your mind. Don’t freak out but look at this as a new opportunity in front of you, a new action to take, that just like any other action, requires a process that happens one step at a time. Look on that first step as a gift, a chance to try some small thing that might lead to a great journey that you’d miss if you don’t take that first step!

Yes, starting something new is usually scary and it might bring about doubt. That’s normal. Change will cause a lack of ease because it’s unfamiliar territory, nonetheless, the unfamiliar can become familiar once we embrace it. So how can you embrace jumping out of your comfort zone?

You can start by asking yourself the following questions:

  • What do you really want in life, what is your dream?
  • Why do you want it?
  • Are your current actions helping you move towards that dream?
  • What can you change so that you are working towards it?
  • Do you want your dream enough to make those changes even if they are not comfortable?

By now you know what you need to do, so do you feel ready? If you answered yes to that, now is the time to implements those changes, the ones that can launch you into success.

break freeIf you want to experience the freedom of being a complete action taker who is willing to do anything, regardless of how scary it may be, you have to find something of major significance to drive you. I promise you that having a fluffy goal with no emotional backing (for example, a certain amount of yearly income) is not a driving force, it is more of a nice-to-have.

The driving force I am talking about is something much more personal, much more sacred to the individual. It is a representation of you, your beliefs, your morals, values and everything else that defines you at the core of your being.

Think Olympic champions (and hopefuls) who make huge sacrifices just to compete at this high level. Without having a driving force inside them, how would they commit to the years of dedicated & often painful training that is needed, putting aside the social life & friendships that others take for granted?

Very few people ever take time to define this for themselves, so they never truly tap into their driving force. That is why we see so many people living complacent lives, accepting mediocrity and frustration instead of aggressively pursuing something that makes them come alive. Because of this, it never occurs to them that they should be stepping out of their comfort zone and trying new things.

 

Do You Have Shiny New Object Syndrome?

First posted on Medium at https://medium.com/@trish_39797/do-you-have-shiny-new-object-syndrome-b783c38281f8

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I’ve just finished reading Shaunta Grimes medium post titled “Three Ways to Combat Shiny New Things Syndrome – Because You Actually Do Need to Finish What You Start”.

This really gels with me because I, too am a good starter of new things but not a very good finisher and can sometimes get stuck early in Act II, which is pretty pathetic when you think about it. The only positive I can console myself with is that I find new ideas that have huge potential easily & often, I just need to learn how to pick one, set a goal for that one and stick with it till I reach that goal. Perhaps then that “thing” can become part-time or secondary while I explore a new shiny object. Rinse & repeat, as they say.

And even though Shaunta is a writer and her shiny new things were probably new subjects to write about, her strategies apply equally to anybody whose shining new things could be jobs or hobbies, sports or self-development courses, anything at all that they like to do or learn about. For me it’s usually some new software for graphics & animation or some new plan for making money.

The Cost of Shiny New Things/Objects Syndrome

Chasing shiny new things can be expensive for three reasons. Firstly, because if you only just start out all the time and never finish, you never get to the stage of getting any return on your investment, only the expenses.

The second cost is time and I believe it is an even higher cost than wasting money by not finishing things. You can always get more money somehow, but no-one can buy time. 24 hours a day for however long we live is what we all get equally and it’s all we can ever have. Lost time cannot ever be replaced & that makes time the most precious resource any of us have in life.

The third cost is lack of self-worth. You look on yourself as a failure and let’s be honest, you are a failure with regard to not reaching your goals, but it tends to take over your thoughts about yourself and you can start to think of yourself as a failure overall, just like a boy whose autocratic father, on receiving his son’s report card with 3 A’s & 2 B’s but one D in the father’s field of expertise, then calling his son a dunce and a failure.

Looking Back

Photo by Riccardo Mion on Unsplash

Having reached my 70’s, I look back and can say that I’ve had a very interesting life with highlights like offshore sailing, flying a light plane for several years, jumping out of one at 10,000 feet, with a parachute of course since I’m alive and writing this!

But what I haven’t got is financial security in my senior years for various reasons, some not under my direct control, but nevertheless, the decisions I’ve made in the past have created the situation I’m now in.

Looking back, it’s easy to see where I didn’t spend money wisely, didn’t finish some of the training paid for and started but not finished; wasted time learning things that would have more efficiently been outsourced to someone already experienced in that field (but it was interesting learning these new things!).

Being Disciplined

Being brutally honest with myself, I lacked self-discipline for many of my years and still do to a lesser extent. The strategies I use now are a lot like those in Shaunta’s article and I list them here as it may be a useful guide to others in their quest to defeat the “Shiny”syndrome.

1. Expectations?—?set some for each day. Whatever your current project is, make a commitment to move forward in some measurable way. I like to write down a list either at night or first thing in the morning of what I want to achieve each day. My daily commitments go on that list as well as meetings & reminders so I don’t forget them.

2. Start each day with a positive mindset and when I say start, I mean before you get out of bed make a conscious decision to have a good day. Perhaps you don’t believe it, but your attitude to everything that happens to you is your choice. Things that happen are often not your choice, but how you think about them is. Waking up and saying to yourself “It’s Monday. I hate my work” is not going to result in the happiest or most productive day.

Shaunta says not to let your inner critic take over. For me this means that if I start feeling like I’m a failure, I take my mind on a brief journey remembering my successes and things I’m good at. We’re all good at something, so find yours. They don’t need to be huge, even something simple like being friendly and making people smile can have a more positive effect than you’ll ever know.

3. Be accountable to someone.

You’ll probably hate this idea; I always resisted and have only recently agreed to do this with someone I know well, but I believe it will help me to stop getting side-tracked by some of my interests. We can still have interests, so long as we keep doing our current project for the committed time each day.

4. Write down the Shiny New Things that come to you.

Even though you’re not going to follow them immediately, keep a record of your ideas because you might need them later, or some of them anyway. Knowing you have them stored safely for the future lets you free your mind to focus on your current project.

I’m not saying I’ve totally overcome my desire to keep trying new things straight away, because I haven’t, but I’m better at focusing on the task at hand now and since time is running out, it’s really now or never for me.

Two Small Sentences that Eased My Trepidation

When you need Encouragement

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I’ve just read Alex Mathers article “What I learned writing thirty self-development articles in thirty days”, and as a newbie on Medium with the goal of writing every day, I was encouraged by what he had to say.

 

Two sentences stood out for me; the first was:

Being OK

 

“We must be OK with the idea that some of our work will be ignored or disliked.”

This was timely advice for me because I’d been spending so much time on each article that it was turning into a real drag, instead of something I’d hoped to enjoy and be stimulated by. You’d think, being in my senior years now, that I’d have understood this concept pretty well by now and I do, in other areas of my life, but this is the first time I’ve really put my writing “out there” and so there’s this tendency to be self-conscious and want perfection (never achieved of course) but still aimed at.

Alex’s other sentence that jumped out at me was:

Show Up

Showing up will show the world you mean business, but it?—?more importantly?—?will show yourself what you are capable of.”

Now that was just what I wanted to hear; it doesn’t matter if anyone reads my stuff or not, I’m writing for myself and to see what happens. Self-growth of some kind must occur!

A Mother’s Expectations Causing Conflict

My mother was an intelligent woman and had been a bright student at school, good with language and with figures so one of her teachers was encouraging her to be an accountant or a teacher herself.

Now, this was back in 1938, a time when young women were expected to obey their father’s will and my grandfather had the usual belief of the time, that education was wasted on females. So much to her horror and despite many arguments and appeals, my poor mother was taken out of school at age 14 and put to work in a factory doing piecework (sewing cut-out fabric pieces to make garments).

We must understand the times, my grandfather was a caring person and didn’t do this to punish mum, but to give her what he thought was a good start in life by earning some money to fill her glory box. In those days it was up to young girls to get their household linen and clothing ready in anticipation of a married life; working families could not afford that expense on the pay that one man earned.

Mum had to make the best of it and she became a very skilled seamstress, but later when she married, she was very determined that ALL her children would get a good education. And so, we did, but unfortunately, we were pressured into the careers mum had wanted in her own youth.

Most of us had a different preference, I know my youngest sister wanted to stay on the farm, but “girls can’t be farmers” said our parents. When I left school, I had visions of working in the radio station in the technical area, (not an announcer) but mum vetoed that because it was shift-work and deemed not suitable for a girl my age (I was nearly 18 by then for goodness sake?—?what didn’t I fight harder?)

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Conflict in the form of rebellion or arguments from children in those days very often resulted in a lick of the strap, which was fairly effective in getting kids to toe the line, but I feel we were luckier than many of our friends in that we were listened to in family discussion time. Even so, we all felt it was more about making us understand why we were being pushed in certain directions as the pressure remained and we became a family of three long-term teachers and one short-term one, me.

It wasn’t a bad result for any of us really, just not our first choice but in later years mum admitted that the real truth behind these denials of our choices was in fact that mum wanted us all to have a tertiary education, what she’d longed for and been denied in her own youth.

Thank you, Mum.

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My OFA Origin Story

I am doing Russell Brunson’s One Funnel Away Challenge at the moment and the mission this week is to become a publisher – we have a choice to Make Live videos on facebook or Instagram, publish podcasts or write posts on medium.com every day for a year!! – I have chosen to write & here is an extract from my first story.

Trish & Lesley New Zealand HNov 2017In 1993, at the age of 46, I left my home in the north of Western Australia to move to the Eastern States of Australia where most of my new husband’s family lived. We were both in a good financial position & I was looking forward to having a nice home where it wasn’t so hot and starting a home business. We settled in South East QLD, buying an abandoned crayfish farm because Stu wanted to try aquaculture.

What started out as an exciting new venture turned sour in just a few years when we ran out of money and all the hours of physical labour, trial & error, study and plain hard work felt like a complete waste of time & effort to me. We’d tried to sell several times, but each sale fell though, leaving me frustrated at my husband’s expectations & it was hard to keep a good relationship going when we had such different views of what was important.

See full story here: https://link.medium.com/OY9eBdoqVT?fbclid=IwAR09loPiwRInefoGc15JUtTIquvXy5F7vLBzBhXzW7cr2LhMxnivgiHUkZQ

 

 

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Choose one method and go all out with it. Consistency will get you the traffic and the results. Don’t diversify your efforts over multiple methods pick 1 or 2 and focus on those, but if you choose SEO as a method, always pick another one too. SEO takes time. So, while you’re waiting for your sites to rank, the other method will bring in traffic much sooner and you’ll make money.

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Tips to Avoid Getting Overwhelmed by the Cost of Alzheimer’s Care

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From Marie Villeza – elderimpact.org

If you’re overwhelmed by the Cost of Alzheimer’s Care, you’re far from alone. There are roughly 5.7 million Americans living with Alzheimer’s disease, and that affects their friends and family members struggling to give them the care they need as the patient struggles with memory loss and confusion.

There is help available, but it comes with a large price tag, as assisted-living costs have risen to more than $3,500 per month on average. Even the less-expensive options require careful planning, and those are only viable in the early stages of the condition. You’re in for a battle, though there are ways to ensure your loved one is looked after well into their golden years.

Research Cost-Effective Options

It’s often possible to save money by exploring home care, though this isn’t always possible during the later stages of the disease. To determine whether it’s cheaper, the researchers at Paying for Senior Care have developed a calculator to put an accurate price on total services based on factors including the number hours of medical and personal assistance required per week — as as well as rent, utilities, and food — all of which can be added up and compared with the cost of assisted-living facilities in your area.

Find the Right Caregivers

To choose a quality home care provider, begin by taking referrals from the patient’s doctor as well as friends and family. Once you’ve found individuals or agencies that offer the services you need, check their qualifications and interview the caregivers to gauge their level of experience and whether they’re the right fit. Another decisive factor is how innovative the caregivers are in their use of communication and monitoring technology. You’ll need to make similar inquiries when choosing an assisted-living or memory care facility.

Tap Savings and Investments

One way to pay for these services is by paying the money yourself out of savings and investments. As for the latter, there are a number of strategies that offer relatively low risk with steady returns over the long term. A writer with CNN Money recommends a balanced and diversified approach by putting your money in a total US stock market index fund and a total US bond market index fund. The payouts could cover retirement expenses as well as the care needed for Alzheimer’s, or at least help fill in the gaps.

Play the Insurance Game

The ideal policy would be long-term care insurance, but this is unavailable if the patient has already been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. If that’s not the case, research plans while you have the chance. Other finance options via insurance include living benefits, which are payouts on life insurance while the policy-holder is still alive, with the money made available for medical expenses such as an assisted-living facility or nursing home.

Use Medicare and Related Programs

Medicare only covers skilled care for up to 100 days, but there are means of paying for long-term care. Medicaid covers a wide variety of custodial services but only for those who fall below a certain income threshold. It may help to enroll in Medicare Advantage Plans, which are offered by private insurers and are eligible for those enrolled in Medicare A and B; you can sign up over the phone, online, or via a form provided by a plan sponsor.

Contact Charitable Organizations

There are a number of charities that are ready to step in and offer help in addition to their fundraising activities to fund Alzheimer’s research. The Alzheimer’s Foundation of America, for example, provides a variety of social services, including support groups for caregivers and family members, while the Long Island Alzheimer’s Foundation dedicates its resources to physical therapy, brain fitness workshops, and caregiver support in Long Island, New York.

Though the going may be rough, being prepared mentally and financially will make living with Alzheimer’s disease a little easier. There will be time for you to enjoy with your loved one despite their condition, knowing they are getting the care they need.

 

Rapid Rise in Thyroid Disorders

WHY The Rapid Rise in Thyroid Disorders?

It seems now more than ever that as a society we are getting sicker, and more stressed.

Despite overall improvements in living standards, and technological innovations we are not creating communities that allow people to thrive.

Something is going on that can perhaps be best summed up this way.

There’s been a radical shift in the way we eat due to industrialization of our food supply, we are exposed to an overwhelming amount of toxins, and for the most part family and community structures have broken down.
Along with overwhelming stress these factors are taking a serious toll on our emotional and physical health.
The thyroid is particularly vulnerable to disruption by toxic foods, industrial pollutants, and stress. In effect, this small fragile gland is the ‘canary in the coal mine’.

We need to find our way back, to finding a better way to live…and THRIVE.

Updated in 2018…

The-Natural-Thyroid-DietThis guide that has been helping a lot of people with thyroid problems, The Natural Thyroid Diet, a holistic Guide to Living Well, Living Vibrantly.

It goes way beyond being just another diet eBook as it includes a lot of new information, including the real reasons WHY we are seeing an epidemic of thyroid disorders and combines a natural healing approach with the latest scientific research.

 

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An Inspiring Kiva Story

Kiva is an international nonprofit, founded in 2005 and based in San Francisco, with a mission to connect people through lending to alleviate poverty. They celebrate and support people looking to create a better future for themselves, their families and their communities. 
Kiva Loan for a Shoe Business

By lending as little as $25 on Kiva, anyone can help a borrower start or grow a business, go to school, access clean energy or realize their potential. For some, it’s a matter of survival, for others it’s the fuel for a life-long ambition.

One woman brewing change in Africa, and beyond – Medium  Story by Jessica P. Hansen, photos by Brandon Smith

Vava Coffee, is taking the coffee industry by storm. Upon learning that coffee farmers in Kenya earn less than 35% of the international market value on their high-quality coffee because of their lack of access to better markets and limited knowledge of the quality of their product, Vava set out to shake things up. Get the full ‘scoop’ on how her Kiva loan has allowed her to grow her business and improve the lives of 30,000 farmers in innovative ways